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Shehnai north Indian wedding music
January 19th, 2017 by Srinivas Krishnaswamy
Shehnai

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All good things begin with a Shehnai 

If there is one musical instrument that defines north Indian wedding music, it is the Shehnai. The unique notes of a Shehnai are considered to ring-in auspicious events such as a wedding, engagement or even occasions such as festivals and temples events!

For the uninitiated, the Shehnai is a double reed, woodwind musical instrument. It produces a unique note that we have come to automatically associate with sanctity and good beginnings. The Shehnai is an integral part of north Indian wedding music as it has a calming and soothing note that sets the perfect atmosphere for a solemn event like a wedding. Shehnai is considered to be “managal vadyas” (translates to auspicious musical instruments) along with Nadaswaram which is popular in south India.

Wondering how a Shehnai is made? Check out this video.

The predominant theory about the origin of Shehnai is that it is of Persian origin (In Persian, “Sah” means “King” and “Nai” means “Wind Instrument”) and that the instrument may have found it’s way to India from Persia by the Mughals.

There is yet another story about the origin of Shehnai. It is thought that the Shehnai evolved from Pungi, a musical instrument used for snake charming. Apparently, the Shah banned Pungi from his court because of the shrill sound it made. It is said that a barber modified the instrument to create the Shehnai – the instrument played at the Shah’s court made by a Nai (barber).

According to The Hindu, “The shehnai was originally a folk instrument — some say that it formed part of military ensembles — but musicians with royal patronage developed it in the context of Hindustani music (and an integral part of north Indian wedding music as well).”

Ustaad Bismillah Khan – The doyen of Shehnai

Via Wikipedia

Ustaad Bismillah Khan is probably the only name that comes to your mind when you speak about Shehnai. He has singlehandedly elevated the art of playing the Shenai way beyond the confines of north Indian wedding music and established it as a Hindustani musical instrument in the same league as the Sitar.

Here are some interesting tidbits about the Ustaad from the book Indian Music Masters of Our Times by Pradeep Thakur.

Bismillah Khan was a living example of Hindu-Muslim unity in India. He was born as a Shia Muslim but was also a devotee of Goddess Saraswati and regularly performed at Hindu temples.

Although Bismillah Khan was an international rock star, he remained a man of simple tastes who often spoke of his “dal-chawal” and the cycle-rickshaw, his constant mode of transport.

The maestro advocated introducing music in schools. “If music were to be incorporated into the daily curriculum of little children, I can assure you we would be evolving better human beings. I am sure you cannot tell me once example where music has been the cause of clash between man and man.”

The Ustaad has received numerous awards and recognition for his stellar contribution to Hindustani music and the art of playing Shehnai. Here are a few notable feathers in his cap – He was invited by Pandit Nehru to play Shehnai on 15th August 1947 at the Red Fort; he was awarded the Padma Shri in 1961, Padma Bhushan in 1968, Padma Vibhushan in 1980; Bharat Ratna in 2001.

In December 2016, four silver shehnais and a silver-plated wooden shehnai belonging to Ustaad Bismillah Khan were stolen from his son’s home. Guess who the culprits were? It was none other than the grandson of the Ustaad and a couple of other men! Luckily, two of the five Shehnais were covered intact by the Varanasi police and a kilogramme of silver extracted from the other three shehnais was also recovered.

North Indian marriage customs

Shehnai in popular culture

Shehnai has become an integral component of popular culture in India. Be it north Indian wedding music, classical Hindustani, Bollywood music, pop music and even art! Here are a few examples.

Check out the wonderful composition by AR Rehman in the Bollywood movie Rockstar. This is an exquisite mashup of Shehnai and Guitar!

Coke Studio @ MTV is a live studio-recorded performance by various artists. Check out this wonderful composition by Amit Trivedi that that incorporates Shehnai masterfully.

Even social media posts announcing online contests start off with a Shehnai! Here is one created for BIBA by Vaishali Bawa.

Shehnai in popular culture

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Need more proof that the Shehnai is synonymous with north Indian wedding music? Most wedding invitation card designs in north India will feature a Shehnai.

North Indian Wedding Music Playlist For Shehnai

We lined up a must-have list of Indian wedding songs list for your big fat North Indian wedding. These are not Bollywood wedding songs, just elegant, melodious Shehnai tunes from the master himself that you can use for Sagai, Sangeet, Baraat, Kanyadaan, and Vidai.

Youtube Playlist

SoundCloud Playlist

Just in case you have a lower bandwidth, here is the Ustaad’s playlist from SoundCloud just in case you have a lower bandwidth.

Looking ahead

Subsequent to Ustaad Bismillah Khan’s death in 2006, other artists have continued to carry forward the glorious tradition of playing Shahnai. Ustad Ali Ahmed Hussain Khan is considered to be another maestro who plays the Shehnai at the same league as that of the Ustaad Bismillah Khan. Pandit Daya Shankar and Pandit Rajendra Prasanna are also considered to be great Shehnai artists.

As we have seen with the traditional Indian wedding bands, there has been a steady erosion in the interest people have in retaining traditional or old school cultural elements when it comes to wedding music. People are gravitating away from using Shehnai musicians and instead prefer to use DJs at their weddings!

All said and done, the Shehnai has established itself as the heart of North Indian wedding music. No matter what the fad is in this day and age, we believe the melodious tune of Shenai will resonate at every North Indian wedding for years to come.


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Personalised jewellery
June 13th, 2016 by Srinivas Krishnaswamy

Personalised JewelleryPersonalised jewellery – Get ready for the fashion revolution!

Personalised jewellery is catching on like wild-fire around the world. Wondering why? A culmination of trends and changing expectations has now what I call the “perfect storm”.

Rewind the clock to early 1900s when the legendary Henry Ford is thought to have said, “Any customer can have the car painted any colour he wants so long as it’s black.

We have come a long way since then. Motorola in the US offers customers the option to order a custom phone with plenty of options to choose from in terms of selecting the colours, engraving your name, adding custom messages on starting the phone to name a few.

Fashion retailers and shoe companies offering customised and personalised products to attract customers and differentiate themselves from the competition. All this is made possible because of significant improvements in technology associated with manufacturing products.

One of the technologies that is now helping companies push the boundaries beyond customisation is the 3D Printer. All of a sudden, manufacturing is no longer the exclusive domain of big companies as anyone with access to a 3D printer and designs can start manufacturing for their personal needs. Check out these videos that show you what’s possible with 3D printing and digital tools when comes to jewellery designs.

7 ways to stand out from the crowd with personalised jewellery!

We lined up 7 different ways personalised jewellery can help you stand out from the crowd. Thanks to Vivek Krishna of Augrav for giving us the insider dope on personalised jewellery!

1. Get your fingerprints and voice on your jewellery

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If you thought you will never use your fingerprints unless you are applying for a US Visa, think again. You can now get your fingerprints on gold jewellery! The process starts with you taking a fingerprint and sending it back to the jeweller. The fingerprint is etched either on the inside or on the outside of the ring you choose. Not a fan of fingerprints? You can also include your name and an engraved voice note to make it truly special.

2. Hello, my name is on my bracelet

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What’s a fancy way of announcing your name? Have it written in gold! That’s exactly what a name bracelet is. Just choose the bracelet design and your jeweller will add your name to it. No, we are not talking of engraving your name. Your name is the bracelet!

3. 3D sculpture pendants to immortalise love

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How about you immortalise your baby or anyone else you love in a pendant? Yes, it is now possible to take your photograph, work with it to make it suitable for 3D printers to do their magic on the pendants. Voila, you will have the 3D face of someone you love to carry around wherever you go. What’s a better way to keep your loved ones close to you?

4. Expensive toys for your precious kids

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If you prefer the toys you buy for your kids to be made of gold, you don’t have to the Emir of Dubai! It is now possible to create a 3D gold toy of anything! That’s not all. You can personalise them with your name or the name of your child.

5. Tired of Rupee coins? Get your engraved gold coins

Personalised jewellery

Engraved gold coins are the perfect gift items for special occasions. Couples getting married can now get their photographs engraved on gold as well as silver coins. They can also add their names and make it a collectable item for the guests at the wedding.

6. Want to make Gollum envious of your ring?

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Reality meets fiction. If you are a Lord of the Rings fan, you can get your personalised ring engraved with your name or any other message you choose in Elivish! If you are not a LOTR fan, you can get yourself a barcode ring! Convert your name or any other word that is special to you into a barcode and have it etched on the ring.

7. When two alphabets come together

Personalised Jewellery

Alphabets A and C -United in Love!

Jewellers can now bring together two different alphabets to create one unique pendant that seamlessly represents both the alphabets. This is a great gift idea for the love of your life.

Personalised jewellery buying tips and facts

Before you buy your personalised jewellery, here are some insider tips from Vivek Krishna of Augrav.

1. Fingerprint rings and music rings with engraved voice tone are popular with newly engaged couples who want to seal the deal with something really special and unique.

2. 3D model pendants are popular with customers who want to remember their loved ones who are longer with them.

3. A lot of customization options are available in addition to personalisation! You can even work with your jeweller to change the design of the item before you personalise it.

4. Because jewellery is made from scratch based your order, be prepared to have a lot of back and forth interaction with the jeweller.

5. Don’t expect to walk into your neighbourhood jewellery store for buying a personalised jewellery item. Retail stores don’t have the tools or the capability (yet) to offer personalised jewellery. Online speciality jewellers are more in tune with the latest tools and techniques for creating personalised jewellery.

6. Prices for personalised jewellery can range from a couple of thousand Rupees all the way to a couple of Lakhs or more.

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Wedding Music
June 6th, 2016 by Srinivas Krishnaswamy
Wedding music

Via Natesh Ramasamy on Flickr

The granddaddies of traditional Indian wedding music!

Wedding music in India is dominated by two instruments that always manage to make their presence heard. While the Shehnai dominates the wedding music scene in North India, the Nadaswaram and Thavil are the dynamic duo that usher in the auspicious occasions in South India. In fact, the Shehnai was replaced by Nadaswaram at the wedding of Aishwarya Rai and Abhishek Bachchan to give the wedding a southern flavor!

For those who are wondering what a Nadaswaram and Thavil are, here is a video that will leave you in splits.

No South Indian wedding is complete without the boisterous and the exuberant notes and beats from the Nadaswaram and the Thavil. The tradition of using these instruments for weddings as well as other festivals or ceremonies goes back to several centuries.

All about Nadaswaram

Wedding music

Via Otrajesh on Wikipedia

If I were to say, “you will know it when the Nadaswaram is playing”, I am not exaggerating. The Nadaswaram is the world’s loudest non-brass acoustic wind instrument! Here are some interesting tidbits about Nadaswaram.

1. Nada means a pleasing sound and swaram means note. Hence the name Nadaswaram. There is another school of thought pertaining to the name of this instrument and the same instrument is also referred to as Nagaswaram.

2. Nadaswaram is considered to be one among the managala vadyam or auspicious instruments that get played for temple festivities and other important events.

3. The Silappathikaram, considered as one of the epics of Tamil Literatures was penned in about 3rd Century CE. This epic  refers to an instrument called Vangiyam that resembles the Nadaswaram.

4. Narasingapettai in Tamil Nadu is well known for its master Nadaswaram craftsmen. Like many other traditional professions, the Nadaswaram makers of Narasingapettai are on their last lap as the younger generation is no longer interested in pursuing an ancient livelihood.

5. Here is how the different parts of Nadaswaram come together. The top portion has a metal staple (called “Mel Anaichu“) into which is inserted a small metallic cylinder (called “Kendai“) which carries the mouthpiece made of reed. Besides spare reeds, a small ivory or horn needle is attached to the Nagaswaram. This needle is used to clear the mouthpiece of saliva particles and allows the free passage of air. A metallic bell (called “Keezh anaichu“) decorates the bottom.

6. Each part of the Nadaswaram is related to a deity. The bottom circle to Surya, the Sun God, the upper hole to Goddess Sakti, the inner holes to Lord Vishnu, the body to Lord Brahma, and the seven holes to seven mothers.

All about Thavil

Wedding music

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The Thavil is a percussion instrument and forms a key accompaniment for Nadaswaram. According to Wikipedia, The thavil consists of a cylindrical shell hollowed out of a solid block of jackfruit wood. Layers of animal skin (water buffalo on the right, goat on the left) are stretched across the two sides of the shell using hemp hoops attached to the shell. The right face of the instrument has a larger diameter than the left side, and the right drum head is stretched very tightly, while the left drum head is kept loose to allow pitch bending.

Here are some interesting facts about Thavil.

1. Different parts of the Thavil are made in different towns and villages. The jackfruit drum comes from Panruti in Cuddalore, synonymous with jackfruit groves.

2. The steel rings (valai) made of iron pipes, for attaching the leather is made at Thiruvaiyaru Valangaiman and Kattumannarkoil, the birth place of Vaishnava Acharya Nadhamunigal.

3. Steel belts for fixing the valanthalai (right side) and thoppi (left side) on the drum and the connecting rod in the middle of the drum are manufactured at Mayiladuthurai.

4. The Thavil artist uses fingers as well as a stick to play the instrument. The right head is played on with the right palm, wrist, and fingers. The player usually wears hard rings (also called caps) on all fingers of right hand. They are made of rice flour or Maida flour called ‘Koodu’ to give a deeper effect and volume. The left head is played on by using a short, thick stick made of the portia tree (Poovarasam).
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5. A key part of traditional south Indian wedding music is the Ketti melam. This special tune is played at the exact moment the bridegroom ties the thali on the bride. It is believed that the ketti melam wards of evil sounds. The Thavil plays a key role in making sure you don’t hear anything else when the ketti melam is played.

Looking ahead

Wedding music

Via Niranjan Patil

Nadaswaram and Thavil have had a glorious past and continues to be the wedding music of choice in all South Indian marriages. Nadaswaram and Thavil have gone beyond just being wedding music as they are also integral to temple festivals and other occasions. Unlike the dwindling brass bands in North India, traditional South Indian wedding music has found patronage even among the new generation of young Indians.

Stalwarts like Thiruvengadu Subramania Pillai, TN Rajarathinam Pillai, Thiruvuzhimizhalai Subramanya Pillai, Karaikurichi Arunachalam, and Sheik Chinna Moulana have brought in the much-needed respectability to the artists. However, it is to be seen if we will continue to see young artists taking up Nadaswaram and Thavil by choice.

Interestingly, there is no dearth of educational institutions where one can learn the art of playing Nadaswaram and Thavil. In Tamil Nadu, there are over 20 Government run schools and several other institutions that teach this art form. However, the students that enroll in these schools come in because they couldn’t find admission in other streams of education!

That’s not the only issue. The Nadaswaram and the Thavil are incredibly tough instruments to play. In order to master these instrument, you will need to spend years practicing under the guidance of an expert artist. Naturally, only the passionate students or those who belong to a family of musicians have the passion, drive, and the guidance they need to become an artist.

No matter what the challenges are in playing these instruments, I believe the South Indian wedding music will continue to be dominated by Nadaswaram and Thavil for decades to come.

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The King of Fruits
April 25th, 2016 by Srinivas Krishnaswamy

Mango drawingThe King of Fruits – Really?

It’s summer in India and it means only one thing. Everybody is going gaga over a fruit! Yes, we are talking about the king of fruits or the original king of good times (sorry Kingfisher!).

The king of fruits has had a lasting impact on what we eat. A simple Google search will throw up millions of recipes that involve the mango. You should believe us when we say there aren’t any Indian dishes left untouched without somebody deciding to add mango to it. Strangely, we are pretty sure they all taste good. After a lot of head-scratching on how we can pay tribute to the kind of fruits aka mangoes without boring everyone with our list of 10 awesome mango recipes, we chose on one aspect of mango nobody ever talks about i.e. it’s artistic influence!

After a lot of head-scratching on how we can pay tribute to the king of fruits aka mangoes without boring everyone with our list of 10 awesome mango recipes, we chose on one aspect of mango nobody ever talks about i.e. it’s artistic influence!

The mango competes big time with the coconut and banana when it comes to the question of what is the most important fruit in India. You may think only the banana and the coconut find a prime spot in all religious events and hence mangoes comes a distant third. But think again.

Unlike banana and coconut, mangoes are seasonal. However, for the short few months, mangoes make their presence felt. They have an overbearing influence on Indian culture through drawing, art, jewelry, and designs. That’s not all. Our appetite for a mango flavored drink the year never wanes even when they are out of season!

Here are a some interesting titbits that proves that mangoes have ruled us from the Vedic times and even Gods compete with one another for the coveted mango!

Archeologists discovered that people from the Indus Valley Civilization wore mango shaped ear ornaments! That’s not all, Hindu scriptures from 2000 BC tell of how a mango caused a serious rift between Lord Ganesha and Lord Muruga and how this episode lead to the allegory of the fruit of wisdom in the words of Avvayar!Devika Bal
We concluded that the king of fruits deserves its place in an art gallery considering the impact it has had on our culture. Little did we realize that mango has captured the imagination of artists from around the world. Check this out for yourself.

Summer dreams are incomplete without the mangoes!

Indian summers and mangoes go hand in hand. Here is what Rachana Saurabh had to say about her visions of an Indian summer.

This painting is inspired by my dream. These days I am missing my childhood summer days badly. Summer vacation in India , Mango tree and lots of birds singing! Few weeks back when I called my Mom in India, I heard the sweet voice of a Cuckoo bird. And the same night I had this dream! 

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Summer Dreams by Rachana Saurabh

Fruit meets art

What happens when a mango meets a chicken? They fell in love and had a baby! Don’t believe us? Here is what Celine Nieuwland, an artist from the Netherlands, came up with! You be a judge of whether this is the love child of a mango and a chicken or a mango and a dehusked coconut (or should we call this mangonut?)!

The King of Fruits

Fruit Meets Art By Celina Nieuwland

Watercolor mango in all its glory

This is a simple, yet amazing watercolor painting of a mango by Claudia Melchor del Rio from Germany. The painting shows the different shades of orange and red that’s characteristic of a ripe mango, ready to be devoured!

The King of Fruits

Watercolor Mango By Claudia Melchor del Rio

Japanese dolls with a head of mangoes?

The Daruma doll (also known as the Dharma doll) is considered as a talisman of good luck in Japan. It is modeled after Bodhidharma, the founder of Zen Buddhism. This Daruma doll from Mineya Daruma has pancakes and mangoes! No, this is not a typo.

The King of Fruits

Daruma Doll By Mineya Daruma

NSFW mangoes from Australia!

Just when you were scratching your head about the Daruma doll with mangoes, we came across this gem from Australia. Question – When you have a grocery market close to the Bondi beach, what happens to the produce? Answer – They start wearing bikinis and skimpy outfits! Check out this artwork from Steven Popovich. He created this for the Harris Farm Market.

The King of Fruits

Sexy Mangoes By Steven Popovich

Mango Man! Sorry, the Mango Girl!

The artist, Laxmidhar Rout, explains a rather strange event that led to his creation. A girl happens to go the “mango land”. There she eats so many mangoes, that she becomes a “mango girl”. She also listens to music with her mango headsets! We just guessed she is probably listening to “taste the mango….”.

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Mango Girl By Laxmidhar Rout

The metamorphosis of a mango!

Rishika Gambhir of New Delhi has put together thirteen handcrafted illustrations that show the growth of a mango. She demonstrates a keen sense of observation and of course her talent! Check out this gallery.

Paisley and mangoes

Finally, mangoes are also closely linked to the paisley pattern that’s so popular with ladies in India when it comes to sarees. The paisley pattern has already made a leap away from clothing material to become a key part of wedding invitation cards and even cell phone cases! Here is an example of Paisley pattern used in greeting cards.

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Marrying a musician
January 7th, 2016 by Srinivas Krishnaswamy

Marrying a musician

Yes, there are rules for dating a musician! Now imagine what happens when you choose to marry one!

Marrying a musician will eventually become common

If you are in India and dating a musician, your parents might have already created enough drama to make sure you have fixed a wedding date. And now, you are marrying a musician!

Music happens to be a growing business in India. According to KPMG, the music industry in India will be worth over $300 Million in less than 5 years from now!

Bollywood music comprises 80% of the music industry and the rest includes regional and classical music as well as western music. As the music industry grows in size and reach, brace yourself for seeing the word “musician” in matrimony ads!

It is obvious that if you are planning on marrying a musician, you need to tune yourself to a different lifestyle after marriage!

We decided to listen to what famous musicians have to say about their marriages to draw important lessons that you will find useful and also figure out why it is difficult for musicians to have relationships and how to handle a relationship with a musician.

1. Learn to love traveling

Musicians, the world over, have one common challenge to deal with. They end up traveling a lot. Let’s say you are marrying a popular classical musician or even an upcoming classical musician in India. They probably are dabbling with playback singing for a couple of regional languages film industries or even mainstream Bollywood movies. Recording songs can take them places. One in a while they also need to travel to different cities for private shows.

You also have seasonal music festivals (such as the December Carnatic music festival in Chennai as well as the Thiruvaroor festival in south Tamil Nadu). That’s not all, musicians end up traveling abroad (especially to the US) where there is a strong demand for classical musicians.

So be prepared to either travel a lot get ready to take charge of the household when your spouse is globe trotting!

Marrying a musician

2. Be ready to be ignored

Being a musician requires a lot of hard work. The only difference is that the amount of preparation that successful musicians put in before major concerts and events are enormous.

They will be busy preparing for weeks at a time for an upcoming event and there is only one thing on their minds, i.e. music. Everything else, including you, becomes secondary!

Marrying a musician

Image Credits: Kayaniv

Here is what Bombay Jayashri, who sang Pi’s Lullaby in the movie – “The Life of Pi” had to say about her marriage and the difficulties faced by her husband.

“I think it was very difficult for my husband Ramnath to understand me for a long time. I don’t think it is easy because several days before the concert I go into a zone and nothing can shake me out of it. And once I have gone out, sometimes even I forget that there is someone out there waiting for me to come home. And when I am on stage I completely forget that I am a wife, a mother or a daughter. So to cope with all this and still believe in oneself is not easy for a spouse.”

3. Dealing with adoring fans

If you are marrying a musician known for looks and talent, be prepared to deal with hordes of adoring fans who really don’t care about the fact that your spouse is no longer single! You will have to deal with groupies as well as stalkers. Here is what Sonu Nigam, a leading playback singer for Bollywood Movies had to say in an interview.

Marrying a musician

Image Credits: Bollywood Hungama

“I started getting slightly popular, the female interest around me grew. I met with a lot of wonderful women of different mindsets, qualities, and nationalities.

During a concert tour in Israel, I first realized how popular I had become. As soon as we came out of the airport, the women who were swooning over Chunky Pandey left him and showered me with kisses. My face was plastered with lipstick. I quite enjoyed that phase. I still get a lot of female attention and like it. Who wouldn’t?”

Jealousy and suspicion can destroy your marriage. Marrying a musician requires an inherent ability to trust your spouse.

4. Your spouse and your parents

Let’s assume you are marrying a woman who is a famous musician. It does not change the equation your wife will have with your parents.The same tensions, prejudices, cultural issues that plague women in every other profession can come into play. Musicians don’t have a “get out of the in-laws” pass. Their hectic schedule and preoccupation can sometimes come in the way of performing family obligations that your parents might consider very important. Be prepared for some fireworks!

This is what happened to Asha Bhosle.

marrying a musician“When she was only 16 years old, she fell in love with 31-year-old Ganpatrao Bhosle; he was Lata’s personal secretary.  Asha was resolute in her desire to marry him, and much against the wishes of her family, she eloped with him.  

However, her married life to Mr. Bhosle was short-lived; after a few years with him, she returned to her mother’s house with her two children and pregnant with her third.  Although the details may never publicly be known for sure, the stated reason for the collapse of the marriage was her mistreatment at the hands of her in-laws.”

5. Learn to love your spouse and her music

Marrying a musician

Image Credits: Bollywood Hungama

Researchers have found that couples that adore each other and put them in a pedestal tend to have a life-long relationship. This is true for musicians as well! If you are marrying a musician, be prepared to learn more about her music and what makes her talent special. Show your commitment to her by supporting her in whatever way you can. A supportive spouse is a sign of a mature, long-lasting relationship.

Shreya Ghosal is an award-winning Bollywood playback singer. She got married to her long-time boyfriend in 2015. Here is what one of her close friends had to say about Shreya Ghoshal’s relationship.

“He would often come after office to my studio if we were recording Shreya’s songs and our adda (jam) session and khana (food) would happen. I love his unconditional love for her. He knows her as a friend and that friendship is unconditional. He is a techie, an entrepreneur, loves music, is a wonderful person and is her biggest admirer and one of the most solid supporters of her in her life in whatever she does. He is besotted by her singing.” 

6. Musicians and ego

When you are a successful musician, you will end up having trouble in managing your ego when things go south. This is true for any successful artist in any profession. Rajesh Khanna’s marriage to Dimple Kapadia is an example of how volatile relationships can become when things don’t go well.

Let’s take the case of Pandit Ravi Shanker. He was once married to another Sitar exponent, Annapurna Devi. In the 1950s, she performed along with Ravi Shanker and supposedly received more adulation than Ravi Shanker! Then, all of a sudden, she vanished from the limelight and took a backseat. Here is what she had to say about her vanishing act.

Marrying a musician

Image Credits: Alexandra Ignatenko

“Panditji (Shankar) was not happy, as I received more appreciation than he did from both the audience and the critics whenever we performed together in the 1950s, and that had a negative impact on our marriage. Though he never categorically stopped me from performing in public, he made it clear in several ways that he wasn’t happy with the fact that I was drawing more applause.”

7. Musicians are arrogant

Musicians are not born arrogant. Nobody is! It’s just that once they start becoming popular, they are worshiped wherever they go. They are no less than a movie star in a country that adores music. No wonder, they end up living in a world that is completely insulated from the reality. This translates into arrogance. You may have married a musician before she became famous or have seen through all these issues to marry a musician. But, remember to play your role in keeping everything grounded!

Marrying a musicianT.M. Krishna is a popular Carnatic musician. He is known for his articulate views on classical music and is an active proponent of classical Carnatic music. In an interview to The Hindu, here is what he had to say about musicians.

Artists are very easily arrogant because we have at least 50 people around us telling us we are the best in the world. We live in this bubble.

Conclusion

If you are grappling with the question – “Should you marry a musician?”, here is a simple takeaway:

Marrying a musician is no different from marrying someone from any other profession. However, before marrying a musician, it helps to be aware of their unique characteristics that are dictated by their lifestyle and work-related pressures. At the end of the day, marrying a musician requires the same amount of hard work and sacrifices that you will need to make in any marriage. Finding someone that can reciprocate the emotional investments and personal sacrifices you will be making will ensure that your marriage remains strong for the long term!

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