Yes, there are rules for dating a musician! Now imagine what happens when you choose to marry one!
Marrying a musician will eventually become common
If you are in India and dating a musician, your parents might have already created enough drama to make sure you have fixed a wedding date. And now, you are marrying a musician!
Music happens to be a growing business in India. According to KPMG, the music industry in India will be worth over $300 Million in less than 5 years from now!
Bollywood music comprises 80% of the music industry and the rest includes regional and classical music as well as western music. As the music industry grows in size and reach, brace yourself for seeing the word “musician” in matrimony ads!
It is obvious that if you are planning on marrying a musician, you need to tune yourself to a different lifestyle after marriage!
We decided to listen to what famous musicians have to say about their marriages to draw important lessons that you will find useful and also figure out why it is difficult for musicians to have relationships and how to handle a relationship with a musician.
1. Learn to love traveling
Musicians, the world over, have one common challenge to deal with. They end up traveling a lot. Let’s say you are marrying a popular classical musician or even an upcoming classical musician in India. They probably are dabbling with playback singing for a couple of regional languages film industries or even mainstream Bollywood movies. Recording songs can take them places. One in a while they also need to travel to different cities for private shows.
You also have seasonal music festivals (such as the December Carnatic music festival in Chennai as well as the Thiruvaroor festival in south Tamil Nadu). That’s not all, musicians end up traveling abroad (especially to the US) where there is a strong demand for classical musicians.
So be prepared to either travel a lot get ready to take charge of the household when your spouse is globe trotting!
2. Be ready to be ignored
Being a musician requires a lot of hard work. The only difference is that the amount of preparation that successful musicians put in before major concerts and events are enormous.
They will be busy preparing for weeks at a time for an upcoming event and there is only one thing on their minds, i.e. music. Everything else, including you, becomes secondary!
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Here is what Bombay Jayashri, who sang Pi’s Lullaby in the movie – “The Life of Pi” had to say about her marriage and the difficulties faced by her husband.
“I think it was very difficult for my husband Ramnath to understand me for a long time. I don’t think it is easy because several days before the concert I go into a zone and nothing can shake me out of it. And once I have gone out, sometimes even I forget that there is someone out there waiting for me to come home. And when I am on stage I completely forget that I am a wife, a mother or a daughter. So to cope with all this and still believe in oneself is not easy for a spouse.”
3. Dealing with adoring fans
If you are marrying a musician known for looks and talent, be prepared to deal with hordes of adoring fans who really don’t care about the fact that your spouse is no longer single! You will have to deal with groupies as well as stalkers. Here is what Sonu Nigam, a leading playback singer for Bollywood Movies had to say in an interview.
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“I started getting slightly popular, the female interest around me grew. I met with a lot of wonderful women of different mindsets, qualities, and nationalities.
During a concert tour in Israel, I first realized how popular I had become. As soon as we came out of the airport, the women who were swooning over Chunky Pandey left him and showered me with kisses. My face was plastered with lipstick. I quite enjoyed that phase. I still get a lot of female attention and like it. Who wouldn’t?”
Jealousy and suspicion can destroy your marriage. Marrying a musician requires an inherent ability to trust your spouse.
4. Your spouse and your parents
Let’s assume you are marrying a woman who is a famous musician. It does not change the equation your wife will have with your parents.The same tensions, prejudices, cultural issues that plague women in every other profession can come into play. Musicians don’t have a “get out of the in-laws” pass. Their hectic schedule and preoccupation can sometimes come in the way of performing family obligations that your parents might consider very important. Be prepared for some fireworks!
This is what happened to Asha Bhosle.
“When she was only 16 years old, she fell in love with 31-year-old Ganpatrao Bhosle; he was Lata’s personal secretary. Asha was resolute in her desire to marry him, and much against the wishes of her family, she eloped with him.
However, her married life to Mr. Bhosle was short-lived; after a few years with him, she returned to her mother’s house with her two children and pregnant with her third. Although the details may never publicly be known for sure, the stated reason for the collapse of the marriage was her mistreatment at the hands of her in-laws.”
5. Learn to love your spouse and her music
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Researchers have found that couples that adore each other and put them in a pedestal tend to have a life-long relationship. This is true for musicians as well! If you are marrying a musician, be prepared to learn more about her music and what makes her talent special. Show your commitment to her by supporting her in whatever way you can. A supportive spouse is a sign of a mature, long-lasting relationship.
Shreya Ghosal is an award-winning Bollywood playback singer. She got married to her long-time boyfriend in 2015. Here is what one of her close friends had to say about Shreya Ghoshal’s relationship.
“He would often come after office to my studio if we were recording Shreya’s songs and our adda (jam) session and khana (food) would happen. I love his unconditional love for her. He knows her as a friend and that friendship is unconditional. He is a techie, an entrepreneur, loves music, is a wonderful person and is her biggest admirer and one of the most solid supporters of her in her life in whatever she does. He is besotted by her singing.”
6. Musicians and ego
When you are a successful musician, you will end up having trouble in managing your ego when things go south. This is true for any successful artist in any profession. Rajesh Khanna’s marriage to Dimple Kapadia is an example of how volatile relationships can become when things don’t go well.
Let’s take the case of Pandit Ravi Shanker. He was once married to another Sitar exponent, Annapurna Devi. In the 1950s, she performed along with Ravi Shanker and supposedly received more adulation than Ravi Shanker! Then, all of a sudden, she vanished from the limelight and took a backseat. Here is what she had to say about her vanishing act.
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“Panditji (Shankar) was not happy, as I received more appreciation than he did from both the audience and the critics whenever we performed together in the 1950s, and that had a negative impact on our marriage. Though he never categorically stopped me from performing in public, he made it clear in several ways that he wasn’t happy with the fact that I was drawing more applause.”
7. Musicians are arrogant
Musicians are not born arrogant. Nobody is! It’s just that once they start becoming popular, they are worshiped wherever they go. They are no less than a movie star in a country that adores music. No wonder, they end up living in a world that is completely insulated from the reality. This translates into arrogance. You may have married a musician before she became famous or have seen through all these issues to marry a musician. But, remember to play your role in keeping everything grounded!
T.M. Krishna is a popular Carnatic musician. He is known for his articulate views on classical music and is an active proponent of classical Carnatic music. In an interview to The Hindu, here is what he had to say about musicians.
Artists are very easily arrogant because we have at least 50 people around us telling us we are the best in the world. We live in this bubble.
If you are grappling with the question – “Should you marry a musician?”, here is a simple takeaway:
Marrying a musician is no different from marrying someone from any other profession. However, before marrying a musician, it helps to be aware of their unique characteristics that are dictated by their lifestyle and work-related pressures. At the end of the day, marrying a musician requires the same amount of hard work and sacrifices that you will need to make in any marriage. Finding someone that can reciprocate the emotional investments and personal sacrifices you will be making will ensure that your marriage remains strong for the long term!
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We have lined up 21 awesome Bollywood fan art from four artists. Why Bollywood fan art and what’s special about it?
Bollywood fans are crazy and fanatical. Their craziness for their hero or heroine is complete. There are plenty of examples of what people can do for their idols. Fans of Rajnikanth pour milk on his cutouts and posters as a form of reverence. This is such a special gesture because the practice of pouring milk is reserved only for Hindu deities!
Bollywood fans transcend boundaries. Bollywood is not confined to just India and Indians, it belongs to the world. We have fanatical fans of Bollywood fans in places such as Chile, Peru and other South American countries. We even have European fans! Of course, wherever there is large settlement of Indians (US, UK, Australia), Bollywood is not far behind. Check out this Shah Rukh Khan fan page from Peru.
As you can see there is no shortage of passion for matinee idols. One of channeling this passion is through art. We combed Behance and Tumblr to pick out four amazing illustrators and artists that have created captivating Bollywood fan art. Please check out their work and support them.
21 Bollywood fan art from Behance and Tumblr
Rahul Arora – Bollywood fan art with a twist
Rahul Arora is a freelance illustrator. He does storyboards, comics, concept art, environmental design and freelance illustration assignments. Check out his Behance profile and his blog. Here is a line-up of his work. Prepare to be amazed!
Sonakshi Sinha – The angry village belle
Shah Rukh Khan aka King Khan as the Lion King
Salman Khan as the raging bull wearing his Dabaang sunglasses
Ranveer Singh brings out his inner wild
Priyanka Chopra plays cupid
Ekta Kapoor – The queen of TV serials
Mallika Malks – The Creative Doodler
Mallika Malks is an illustrator and graphic designer. She is a doodle lover and her skill and attention to detail is reflected in her work. She is currently the creative lead at Myntra. Check out her Behance profile. You can also buy her artwork from Gabombo.
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Bollywood masala – Just in case you need to make a spicy Indian curry
Andaaz Apna Apna – Mallika’s take on this cult classic
Archana Aravind – The queen of Bollywood posters
Archana is a graphics artist. According to her facebook page, she says, “The mother nature and the people around me have always served to be the greatest inspirations for my art and design works.” Here is a collection of her stunning fan art based on movie posters.
Milkha Singh – Ready to take off
The intrepid lady detective and her many avatars
Rambo and Clint Eastwood rolled into one!
Don’t ever cross a woman – You were warned
Personal struggles in a small town India
Cristina Bombolla – Spanish illustrator who loves Bollywood
Cristina is an artist from Spain that seems to enjoy drawing iconic scenes from Bollywood. You can find her work on her blog page. Who said Bollywood is only for Indians?
Remember the Baazigar O Baazigar song?
Dance routine from Bajirao Mastani
Titli song from Chennai Express
Dance routine from Devdas
The iconic mustard fields of DDLJ 🙂
Om Shanti Om
From the much anticipated Dilwale!
In summary, the biggest lesson we have learned is that art and movies transcend languages, nations, and cultures.
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