People find love in the unlikeliest of places. Some people find love in their office, some find love in college and some other find love through family and friends. Of late, lots of people seem to find love through social media and dating sites. Some people find love 30 years after marriage. I guess you get the idea. Love can strike you anywhere and any time of its choosing.
Train journeys in India are romantic (as long as you are not traveling in the unreserved coach). Even if cupid doesn’t strike you, you are bound to be mesmerized by the constantly changing scenery outside. Trains are also integral to many popular Bollywood movies and by default becomes the setting for the hero and heroine to meet each other or fall in love. We have lined-up a list of memorable movies where romance blossoms in the train. Read on and who knows, you may get a few tips on how to find love the next time you take a train journey!
How to find love in trains – 1960s Bollywood style
We are rewinding to 1960s. You were probably not even born then. But remember, your parents and your grandparents were young, wild and reckless once. Let’s begin our journey of discovery and weird stories of how people find love on trains.
Kala Bazaar (1960) – Eve teasing, the first step to finding love?
Raghu (Dev Anand) sells movie tickets in the black market. He is smitten with Alka (Waheeda Rehman) who also happens to have a boyfriend, Nand (Vijay Anand, Dev Anand’s brother in real life). When Nand gets a scholarship and travels overseas, Alka’s parents decide to take her to Ooty to take her mind off Nand. Raghu sees this as a perfect opportunity and gets on the same cabin as her family. He sings “Apni To Har Aah Ek Toofan Hai”, trying to flirt with Alka while the song itself was veiled as a prayer. He also helps to cure Alka’s father’s back pain with a massage, and soon, he becomes friends with the family. So if you want to chase a girl, learn the art of massage!
Half Ticket (1962) – Finding love dressed as a child (Creepy)
Here is the plot. Our man, Vijay (Kishore Kumar), masquerades as a child in order to get a discounted railway ticket. He gets on a train, but the villain in this movie (Pran) decides to use Munnah as an unwitting courier to smuggle a diamond!On the train, Vijay also meets Rajnidevi (Madhubala) and falls in love with her. The next time you board a train, remember that there are ways to pay less for your ticket and also fall in love!
Mere Huzoor – Misdirected love
In this movie, set in Lucknow’s nawab society, we have Raaj Kumar and Jitendra competing for the affection of Mala Sinha. One of the songs (which became very popular) was set on a train. Jitendra starts singing in the train begging the heroine to lift her veil while all along pretending to address his song to another fellow passenger. Certainly a great approach to finding love as long as your decoy plays ball when you break into a song.
How to find love – 1970s Bollywood style
In our earlier post, we took a journey back to 1960s (in a train of course), to see how cupid strikes the hero and heroine (mostly the hero) on a train. We continue this journey on our time traveling train. This time, it’s the 1970s. Finding love has never been so easy, just get inspired by our matinee idols.
Aradhana (1969) – Chasing trains and violating traffic rules
If there is one movie that continues to be a permanent billboard for the Darjeeling Himalayan Railway, it is the movie Aradhana. Sharmila Tagore is a passenger in the train and Rajesh Kanna decides that the best way to express his love for Sharmila Tagore is by singing a song while driving a Wiley Jeep side by side with the train. He weaves through narrow roads and crossed the tracks multiple times to make sure Sharmila has a good view of his antics.
Pakeezah (1972) – Your feet are not meant for walking!
Meena Kumari is a courtesan traveling by train. Raaj Kumar is another passenger who apparently cannot read the reservation chart or his ticket status is still RAC! Raaj Kumar gets into the heroine’s compartment and gets a glimpse of her beautiful feet. He realizes his mistake but gets out only after leaving her a note begging her not to keep her feet on the ground, for they would be sullied!
Rafoo Chakkar (1975) – Cheesy gay love anyone?
This is a hilarious Bollywood version of a Hollywood movie, “Some Like It Hot”. Rishi Kapoor and Paintal disguise as women and board a train to Kashmir to escape the clutches of a villain who was seen by our dynamic duo committing a murder. It’s a laugh riot all through the rest of the journey. Rishi falls in love with Neetu, who is a part of a girl band traveling to Kashmir and we also have another man falling in love with Paintal!
How to find love – 1980s & 1990s Bollywood style
The train of love continues into the 1990s. This time, we are entering the 80s and beyond.
The Burning Train (1979) – Leaves nothing to imagination
The plot is as obvious as it can get. One of the heroes in the movie (yes, it has a big list of leading men and women) builds a train, the villain hates it and decides to bomb it. On top of that, bumbling cooks in the train burn whatever is left of the train after it is bombed. Not a great advertisement for Indian Railway’s safety record. But there is a lot of emotion, love and heartbreak. After all, the heroine(s) need to do something!
Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge (1995) – How to board a running train and other tricks
The movie starts with a train in London and ends with the Indian Railways in the climax. What a letdown! Anyways, trains play a key role in helping the hero meet the heroine at the start of the movie and also help bring the two together after a melodramatic climax. This is a movie that firmly established the train as the perfect place to find love and other movies copied this idea.
Dil Se (1998) – Dancing on a train is always fun
What do you do when you fall in love? If you are Shah Rukh Khan, you enlist Malaika Arora and start dancing on top of a moving train! Shah Rukh meets Manisha Koirala in a train station and tries his best to strike a conversation. This movie is different from other movies in that the heroine actually doesn’t curse or abuse the hero in the first scene and instead asks for a cup of tea! But by the time Shah Rukh returns with a cup of tea, Manisha boards the train and disappears. So what does Shah Rukh do? He dances on top of the train of course. Moral of the story, always go to the train station with a flask full of hot tea.
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Let’s face it, you are most likely addicted to our Smartphones and your addiction has probably impacted your relationship with your family members and your significant other. Look around, you will see that there is a universal urge to be online and to keep tabs on our Facebook or Twitter feed. There has been enough debate about how our addiction to Smartphones has impacted our health and our behavior. The bottom line is simple – yes, technology has impacted our behavior and relationships. The question is by how much?
Pew Research Center had published the summary results done by Princeton Survey Research Associates International from April 17 to May 19, 2013, among 2,252 adults. Here are the key extracts from the survey. You read the complete report here.
Internet and Social Media usage are a big deal
Technology plays a prominent role in the lives of partnered Americans. Among those who are married or in a committed relationship:
- 88% use the internet (as do 85% of American adults)
- 71% use social networking sites (as do 72% of all internet users)
- 93% have a cell phone (as do 91% of adults)
Couples use technology in the little and large moments. They negotiate over when to use it and when to abstain. A portion of them quarrel over its use and have had hurtful experiences caused by tech use. At the same time, some couples find that digital tools facilitate communication and support. A majority of those in couples maintain their own separate email and social media accounts though a smaller number report sharing accounts and calendars. And fully two-thirds of couples share passwords. Older couples are especially likely to share an email account.
Long term relationships lead to more sharing
Long-term couples are more likely to approach their online accounts as a joint undertaking. Couples who have been together for a longer period of time, and therefore, may have first encountered many of these technologies as a couple, rather than as single individuals—tend to have higher rates of account sharing compared with couples who have been together for a shorter period of time.
Younger couples believe the Internet has more impact on their relationship
Younger and more tech-savvy Americans tend to view the internet as having a more pronounced impact on their relationships. 45% of internet users in couples ages 18-29 say that the internet has some impact on their relationship. On the other hand, just 11% of such internet users in couples ages 65 and older say that the internet has an impact on their relationship.
Online dating results in more Internet usage as couples
Adults in partnerships or marriages of ten years or less look quite similar to single and dating adults in their use of the internet and social media for the work of meeting, flirting and checking up on people they are about to date or have dated in the past. These adults have already incorporated the technology in the beginnings of their relationship and now continue to do so as they enter a more stable phase of their romantic lives.
Technology impacts relationships negatively
Technology can be a source of tension in relationships. Some 8% of online adults in a marriage or partnership have argued with their partner about the amount of time one of them was spending online, and 4% have been upset by something they found out their partner was doing online.
Beyond these general annoyances, cell phones seem to have a particularly distracting effect on relationships. Fully 25% of cell phone owners in a committed relationship have felt that their spouse or partner was distracted by their cell phone when spending time together. Cell phone distractions are especially common among younger couples—some 42% of 18-29-year-olds in marriages or serious relationships have experienced this issue. Other groups of couples who have experienced this at relatively high rates include parents, college graduates, and those with relatively high household incomes.
Technology can also have a positive impact on your relationship
Young people (those ages 18-29) are also particularly likely to experience more positive outcomes with respect to technology and relationship communication. Some 33% of text messaging users in this age group who are in a committed relationship have texted their partner while both are at home, while 41% of young internet users or cell phone owners in relationships have felt closer to their partner due to online or text conversations, and 23% have resolved an argument in the digital sphere that was difficult to resolve in person. Parents were also likely to describe feeling closer to their partner due to technology (26% of internet users or cell owners in relationships) and to text while at home together (30% of texters in relationships).
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Marrying an NRI bridegroom is no longer a “hot” trend in the marriage market. However, if you have shortlisted an NRI in your marriage hunt, one of the biggest issue you will face is how do I make sure the NRI bridegroom is genuine and how do I validate if he is telling the truth in his biodata for marriage or online matrimony profile? We have listed five easy ways to verify the information provided by your prospective NRI bridegroom here.
1. Simple technique to verify your NRI bridegroom’s employment information
Contact your potential NRI bridegroom’s employer in India (if they have an office) or in the country where he is living. You should get the employer contact information from the company’s website and NOT from your potential match. LinkedIn is a great place to see if your match is actually working where he claims he is working. Any serious LinkedIn profile will have at least 50+ connections and one or two recommendations. Not having a LinkedIn profile is not a deal breaker, though. If you do not have his employment information because your NRI match refuses to disclose this information or gives you evasive responses, its a sign from above to run. Here is how you will see my LinkedIn profile. Notice the number of connections and recommendations I have.
2. Online background checks for criminal history
In countries like the US, you can perform online background checks and this will include checking for criminal background. You can Google “online background checks” and then pick a service from the search results. These services usually charge you a small amount for accessing the criminal records.The only challenge you may have is that your need a credit card that these services will accept.Here is one such service that you can try using (This is applicable for the US only).
3. Google Maps for visual verification
Ask for the NRI bridegroom’s local address and do a Google search using Google Maps. Now turn on the satellite view and zoom in to see if the address actually shows a house or an apartment complex. If you see a vacant ground or if the address has no direct match on Google Maps, your NRI bridegroom is probably taking you for a ride. If he is living in an apartment complex, they usually have a website (one more layer of validation) that you can look up.
4. Your NRI bridegroom’s lifestyle
If your NRI match is living in the US, ask him about his car. People living in cities like New York or San Francisco may not even own cars, but a vast majority of Americans may have at least one car if not two. Look up the make and model number of the car online. If your NRI claims he is working in an MNC and is driving around a non-existent car or mentions something like Geo Metro, it doesn’t add up. Use sites like Kelley Blue Book to find out what type of car your NRI Bridegroom may be driving and if it matches his story.
Also, when you look up his place through Google Maps and if you happen to have the “Street View” working, you may actually see his car parked in front of his house. Now you know where he lives and what he drives!
5. Facebook and Twitter checks
Look up the NRI’s name in Google (Google to your rescue again!) and browse through his social media profiles. Look for any images that show your man doing wild things that you don’t approve of. Here is a funny incident where the NRI bridegroom got duped by a fake bride in India!
If your NRI match is living in the Gulf region (Middle East), you can still verify his employment directly, look for LinkedIn and social media profiles and use the Google Maps trick to see where he is living.
TIP: The different ways of verifying information listed in this post are applicable for both NRI grooms and NRI brides!
Did you know? Insisting on creating a biodata for marriage using Jodi Logik will help you weed out fake information and lies easily.
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It’s Diwali celebrations time and you are probably comatose from all the gluttony or you are jumping around like a rabbit from the sugar rush! Don’t worry, you are not alone. It appears Indians worldwide share your enthusiasm for celebrating Diwali come hell or high water. Jodi Logik Minions went around collecting photographs of Diwali celebrations from unexpected corners of the world.
Indian army’s Diwali celebrations in Alaska
Soldiers from U.S. Army Alaska were given that experience when they were invited to celebrate the Diwali festival with soldiers of the Indian army at the Wilderness Inn dining facility on Joint Base Elmendorf-Richardson, Alaska. This was way back in 2010.
Diwali celebrations organized by Indian students in Fairbanks
Let’s stay in Alaska (this blog post is getting cold already). The Namaste India Club at the University of Fairbanks organises Diwali celebrations in Fairbanks, Alaska every
year. Here is a shot of students momentarily forgetting the fact that they are in Alaska.
Image Courtesy: Elika Roohi, News Miner
Diwali celebrations with Indian Jawans in the Siachen
Prime Minister Modi celebrated last year’s Diwali at Siachen along with the Indian Army soldiers deployed there. Certainly a great gesture worth repeating.
Diwali in Antartica!
In the book “Breaking the Ice in Antartica”, Major General Satya S. Sharma documents his experience of spending the Diwali in Alaska during the first ever Indian wintering in Antartica in 1984. Here is an extract from the book. “On October 24th, we celebrated Diwali; the festival of lights and sweets. With whatever powdered milk and other items we had, we had prepared nice festival food and shared it all at the table. Everybody was delighted to celebrate the great festival in Antartica.
Image Courtesy – New Age International (P) Ltd.
Diwali Celebration in the West Indies
Enough of Diwali in cold places. Let’s go to some place with nice beaches and sunshine maaan.
Remember Ramneresh Sarwan, the cricket player from West Indies? Well, this is his home in Guyana on the eve of Diwali.Spectacular shot indeed 🙂
India – Bangladesh Border
While we are celebrating Diwali in the secure confines of our homes and with our family and friends, let’s not forget the BSF Jawans guarding our borders. This is a photograph of a BSF Jawan celebrating Diwali in his bunker in the Bangladesh border.
Image Courtesy: AFP /Getty Images
Abandoned widows celebrating Diwali in Varanasi
This is sad and redeeming. Abandoned widows in Varanasi have been shunned by the society and were forbidden to celebrate anything. A local organization decided to change that and here is a photo of the women celebrating Diwali after a long time. You can see how happy they are!
Photograph: Roberto Schmidt/AFP/Getty Images
Diwali celebrations in London
This one looks like a confrontation between the famous London Bobby and a goofy Indian Grandpa. Frankly, your interpretation is as good as ours 🙂 Did we say sunshine?
Diwali celebrations in Pakistan
Yes, Pakistan also has Hindus. Unfortunately, this citadel of Islam is hell-bent on driving away religious minorities out of their country. Here is a photo of a bunch of Pakistani Hindu’s celebrating Diwali.
Image courtesy: REUTERS
No matter where you are, the spirit of Diwali is infectious. Happy Deepavali or Diwali to you from all of us here at Jodi Logik!
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First of all, what the hell is Etsy? Etsy is an online e-commerce platform that sells all kinds of arts, crafts, and other handmade products from around the world. If you are into exclusive, handmade items, Etsy is a great place to browse. If you are an artist, you can create your personalized store on Etsy and sell your products to customers worldwide.
While Etsy is not yet popular in India, we believe it’s a matter of time before Etsy expands into India and other local competitors catch on to this concept. Interestingly, Etsy has some beautiful wedding invitation cards and we lined up our favorites for your pleasure!
1. Illustrated wedding invitation that highlights the couple’s background
IllustratetheDate sells personalized illustrations that can be printed as wedding invitations as well as magnets and reminder cards. We just love the fact that the couple’s background and likes can be brought together in a caricature.
2. Wedding invitation envelope with a royal seal
How about a personalized wax seal to seal your marriage invitation card? VenusEnvyPaper sells just that! Here is a sample from their Etsy page.
3. Wedding invitation designed for power cuts
How about a marriage invitation card that doubles up as a hand fan? JesseDiamondDesign has a beautiful Indian themed fan that’s actually a marriage invitation card.
4. Wedding invitation with minimalist design
If you are not a fan of busy, Indian-themed design, how about a minimalist design that still has the “Indian” look and feel? DreamCloudDesign on Etsy has one just for you.
5. Simple is better
TheIndianPaperForest on Etsy has a modern take on the traditional Indian marriage invitation card. How about keeping it simple yet elegant?
6. Wedding invitation with a lot of colors
If you want something traditional yet represents the color and energy associated with Indian weddings, we found the right marriage invitation card for you. FoorEyesDesign has a colorful yet pleasing design.
In conclusion – If you are reading this blog post and your wedding is not in the horizon, you will probably need a Jodi Logik profile!
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Here is another eternal love story which, if repeated today, can land you in jail. We are bringing you the story of Radha and Krishna. This story gives you a lesson in finding love, i.e. through pure devotion and commitment. The only danger being, you might be committed to the wrong person!
Jokes apart here is an extract from a beautifully written blog post:
Radha’s love for Krishna and what It means
The love story of Radha and Krishna is certainly one of the most enduring and immortal of all. This love story contains all the ingredients which could have made it the most disapproved affair.
Radha and Krishna grew up in neighboring hamlets. Even though Radha was promised to someone else her love for Krishna reigned supreme in her being. Often neglecting the calls of duty she used to rush to be with Krishna.
Krishna on his part after leaving Vrindavan almost never came to meet Radha. He married Rukmini and Satyabhama, yet Radha’s whole being was infused with the love for Krishna. In my view, this eternal love legend conveys that facts and statistics of a love story might be totally against the accepted social norms but it’s the purity of emotions, the transcendental quality of love which makes it worthy of devotion and reverence.
Radha’s love for Krishna is akin to soul’s longing to be ultimately submerged in the divine self. And Krishna, the incarnation of God, through his deeds and actions made it clear to the world what does Radha mean to him. He, the supreme lord is subservient to her, to her selfless love.
Radha, by surrendering herself totally to Krishna, glorified how one should give in to love and Krishna, by reciprocating equally, conveyed how the lover too should yield to the beloved’s devotion. On an earthly level, we may conclude that there should be no ego between a loving couple.
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Sandhya Ramachandran, in this brilliant blog post, lists the 10 commandments of love applicable for Indians. Read on and prepare to laugh!
This is a post for Dummies; a sort of ‘101’ or listicle if you ever want to fall in love in India.
MATCH YOUR HOROSCOPES
First steps first, better get your kundalis (or horoscopes) matched before falling in love. Else your partner’s father’s second cousin’s granddaughter will probably die of whooping cough! We don’t want that now, do we?
IF SOMEONE ASKS, DO NOT SAY YOU ARE IN LOVE
Wrap your love as if you are packing sambhar powder between your towels before you set out to the US! Only if you are cool about marriage now, now, now, let the cat out of the bag.
YOUR SEXUALITY IS A MATTER OF NATIONAL CONCERN
Unless you want the Agni 5 tested on you and your partner, stick to the opposite sex. After all, you choose who you want to love, no?
‘Kisi ke honth achche hain, kisi ke baal achche hain’ apply to the movies only. So stop running around trees. Choose between the honth/baal and get married already! (English translation: Don’t be so picky with your choice for the spouse and work with whatever option you have been presented with).
ALWAYS INFORM YOUR PARENTS ABOUT YOUR LOVE
If you don’t, someone out there morally ‘straightening’ the society will speed dial them. Young love or old love, to quote Amitabh Bachchan from Mohabattein, we are a country of “Parampara, Pratishtha, Anushasan” (English translation: “heavy synonyms” for the word culture). So, if you want to love, or even sneeze, “Daddy se pooch lena”! (English translation: Ask Daddy).
INTER-CASTE/INTER-RELIGIOUS LOVE? CONVERT OR FORGET
A recently popular opinion in the country (read most politicians and activist groups) is that “all residents of India are Hindus”. Wait, does that include the ‘North Eastern immigrants’ as well?
NEVER KISS IN PUBLIC
Ever seen Indian films before Emraan Hashmi walked in? A kiss was always replaced with two flowers dancing in glee or a bee sucking out the nectar. Wait a minute… these analogies are quite perverted!
NEVER HOLD HANDS IF YOU ARE A COUPLE
If you do, be ready to get married. A recent article I read stated that this Valentine’s Day, certain activists plan to put Alok Nath to shame and perform an impromptu kanyadaan (English translation: Giving away the bride during a marriage ceremony)!
NO PRE-MARITAL ***
Shhhhhh! We don’t speak the word. You may have heard about the Kamasutra being written in India. But I have my own doubts!
‘Love = Marriage’ is the new theorem about to be introduced in the science textbooks. So, honey, no one cares if you need time to settle financially, emotionally, vertically or diagonally! ‘India wants to know’ when you are getting married!
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Jodi Logik will seek out weird questions and provide weirder answers. Steve Jobs once said, “Stay hungry. Stay foolish.” We have decided to stay foolish for sure. There is no chance of staying hungry with so many moms around us. This is not America!
So what’s the foolish question that we decided to take on this week?
“I am bad with my phone, will I be good with my wife?”
Here goes ur response. Wear your seat belts in case you fall off the chair unable to tolerate the silliness you are about to encounter.
Let’s first list out all possible ways you can be bad with your phone and then see what happens when you repeat the same behavior with your wife.
Drop the phone often
You probably drop your wife often. This could be good and bad. Dropping her off for shopping is great, but dropping her when you are waltzing or dancing is bad. Dropping her from a cliff is really bad.
Drown the phone in the toilet
This is bad. I don’t want to tell you that if you try this with your wife, you will probably become the most hated man on this planet.
Starving the phone by not charging
If you keep hearing the sad noises that your phone makes when it is about to run out of juice, you probably don’t bother to provide for your wife. Why the hell did you marry?
Using gross phone accessories
Yes, this behavior also counts as an abuse. You probably are way too suspicious of your wife and you try to influence how your wife dresses or always tell her to cover up!
Talking loudly on the phone in public places
You are probably one of those idiots that talk loudly in public places and create a nuisance. Going by your behavior, you probably also shout at your wife in public places.
And the answer is…
Tallying up the behavior clearly tells us that you will be what I call a “loser husband” and you should remain single for the good of the mankind 🙂
Do you have questions that need answers?
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