Why Is It Difficult to Write Partner Preferences for Marriage?
Writing about life partner preference for marriage is an art and a science.
You need to have a good command of the language to make sure you write an interesting description that will not only attract the right women but also make sure mismatched prospects stay away!
It is a science because you need to be ready to re-write your partner preference description based on the responses you get or the interactions you have with prospective matches.
To get you started, we have listed 7 awesome partner preference for grooms and 7 attractive partner preference for brides.
The partner preference description samples in this article cover a range of attitudes, lifestyles, professions, physical disabilities, and interests.
7 Partner Preference Samples – For Grooms
1. Genuine and funny
I am looking for a beautiful and compassionate woman that can put up with my pet cat and dog (yes, they can be friends). I have a long daily commute and I will be delighted if you can make me a cup of coffee when I reach home. I will, of course, return the favour.
My parents stay with me, but we have a huge house. You will have your space, but you should be OK with this arrangement. Your parents are welcome to stay at our home if they choose to (We seriously need more people to clean our huge home!).
BTW, I am a social drinker and you can join me for an occasional beer or wine. If you are good at pairing wine with cheese, you are the love of my life.
2. Specific and to the point
I am looking for a girl with a killer smile and a spark in her eyes. I am tall, so you will have to be at least 5.5 feet in height. My future wife should enjoy travelling with me as I follow the Indian cricket team worldwide! It goes without saying that you should know the difference between point and gully.
My prospective wife should be a nature lover and enjoy living in a secluded home that is far removed from the hustle and bustle of the city.
3. Traditional and old-fashioned
I am looking for a girl with a great appreciation for the South Indian Brahmin culture and family values. We are a joint family and place a great emphasis on religious ceremonies and traditions. We have strict dietary habits and my prospective wife should embrace our lifestyle.
I am looking for an educated girl with exposure to Carnatic music or classical dance and should be open to staying at home after marriage. I am tall and I expect to marry someone who is at least 5 feet 5 inches in height.
4. A man with a physical disability
I am looking for an educated woman who has an independent career of her own. I am searching for someone who can see beyond the fact that I am bound to my wheelchair. Height certainly doesn’t matter to me :).
While I have grown up to handle everything that life can throw at me, I am looking for a companion who wouldn’t mind providing a helping hand when I am outside. It would be great to marry someone who has prior exposure to working with physically disabled people or have been exposed to their lifestyle.
Someone with a great sense of humour, having experienced adversity and overcome them in the past will probably be able to appreciate my point of view better.
5. Travelling professional
I am looking to marry a career-oriented girl who is financially independent, strong-willed, and has a strong network of family and friends. I am a teetotaler and a non-smoker and hence expect the women I marry to appreciate my preference.
I am a career merchant navy engineer and hence spend over 6-months in the year roaming the far corners of the oceans. Ability to lead an independent life while I am away is a key requirement. I am based out of Mumbai, and I will prefer to marry someone from Mumbai or Pune.
6. Belonging to a family of musicians
I am looking for someone who can blend in with our large family of classical South Indian musicians. She should be able to thrive in a home where music dominates our conversations and activities. It will be a plus if you can hold a tune and can spot the difference between Kalyani and Poorvi-Kalyani ragas.
While I am biased towards classical music, I am open to marrying someone who is into other forms of music or art. Someone who has a modern outlook to life in terms within the boundaries of a South Indian Brahmin culture will be a great match. Chennai-based girls will be preferred.
I am an environmental activist for Greenpeace and believe in taking action to stop the unchecked plunder that is happening in the name of development and growth. I am looking for someone who subscribes to the philosophy that we need to everything in our power to stop environmental degradation.
I don’t want to have children of my own as I have adopted the cause I believe in as a key priority in life. My ideal match will be someone who is adventurous and willing to travel with me anywhere in the world to make a difference.
I am ok with social drinking but smoking habit is a strict no. Ability to drive a two-wheeler can come in handy but most importantly, a willingness to learn and take risks is what I am looking for in my future wife.
Check out this short video to get step-by-step instructions for writing a proper partner expectation description for your marriage biodata.
Don’t Fall for these traps when writing about your partner
Use our samples to help attract the right people and stay clear of the common pitfalls or traps that you will probably fall for when writing about your partner preferences for marriage.
These traps include:
1. When writing about partner preference for matrimony, there seem to be a tendency to repeat everything you have read or seen in newspapers or matrimony sites.
2. Men and women end up describing their expectations for marriage as if they are ordering a pizza with special toppings!
3. Not stating key requirements and deal breakers up front is a recipe for wasting your time as you will invariably meet men or women who aren’t compatible.
The trick in writing about partner expectation in your marriage biodata is to stand out from the crowd within the cultural boundaries of this day and age.
7 Partner Preference Samples – For Brides
1. Specific expectations
I am looking for a good looking, educated, well-settled man who is in the 28 years to 30 years age group. I am not particular about marrying someone from the same caste. I am OK with any caste as long as he is a Hindu.
Ideally, I would like to settle down in Bangalore and would prefer to marry someone working in Bangalore. However, if I find the right person working elsewhere, I am open to relocating. I will appreciate a similar flexibility from the other side.
My ideal husband should be flexible and help me out in managing the household. At the least, someone who appreciates the taste of filter coffee and knows how to make a good cup should be good enough even if cooking and cleaning is not their cup of tea! He should have his own social circle, support system and interests that can provide an emotional outlet on a need basis.
I am looking for someone who is at least 5 feet 5 inches in height and a cheerful attitude towards life. He should be educated and living in Mumbai. I am open to working or staying at home after marriage. He should be a vegetarian and must belong to the <name of the caste>. Even though I am not a believer in horoscope match, my mother insists on it and hence horoscope match is required.
The person I have in my mind should be comfortable interacting with people, should have likes and interests that he is passionate about, and have a positive outlook on life.
3. US-based Professional
My ideal man should be someone studying or working in the US, preferably in my age group, and willing to relocate to Philadelphia or working in Philadelphia. I am not particular about marrying someone from my caste. I do hope to marry a Hindu. I am looking for someone who has no objections against me from continuing my professional career after marriage.
I come from a progressive family, and we are not orthodox or religious. Someone who loves Indian traditions and culture yet can have an open mind about other cultures and practices will be a good match. Horoscope match is not required at our end. I will prefer a simple wedding ceremony devoid of all the pomp and glitter.
I am looking for a simple boy belonging to <caste name> who is in the 26 to 30 year age group.
He should come from a conservative family background and should be familiar with religious customs and rituals. He should be comfortable with the fact that I will continue to run my business after marriage and should be open to the fact that I will continue to support my family financially.
He should be employed and it would help if he is either a graduate or completed high school. I will be happy if he can help me run my business.
Horoscope match is required and we are against dowry.
I am looking for a young, handsome man who has a cheerful personality. Religion, caste, food habits are not important for me or for my family members. I am more interested in finding a compatible match. I am also OK with social drinking but not OK with smoking.
I am out of town for five days a week and hence expect my future husband to be independent and self-sufficient. He should have a successful career and should be able to step up to the plate to manage the household when I am away. While I am not looking to marry a fitness fanatic, someone who takes their health and fitness seriously will be a positive factor.
6. Wheelchair user
I am looking to marry someone who can look beyond the fact that I am wheelchair bound. Considering my handicap, it would help if the person I am marrying is also not in a wheelchair. I don’t have any issues in marrying someone with any other disability or from any other caste or religion.
Ideally, I want my match to have a college degree and possibly working as well. Ability to handle household chores will be helpful but we do have additional help as well.
I just want to make it clear that I am looking for a soulmate, not a caretaker. Life for a disabled person in India is not easy because public facilities are lacking or fall short. In addition, disability attracts a lot of annoying comments in the garb of sympathy, curiosity, or sheer ignorance. Whoever marries me will have to put with these challenges on a day to day basis and take them in the stride.
Looking for someone who is mature, forgiving, and has the ability to see other’s point of view and not self-centred.
Someone from the same caste will be preferred as it takes away several basic incompatibility issues around food habits and customers. I am OK with divorce/widower as well. The ideal age group for my match will be between 30 to 35 years old.
While I am vegetarian, I am open to marrying someone who eats non-vegetarian food and preferably a non-smoker and teetotaler. Social drinking if fine with me. A simple and conservative lifestyle is certainly something I appreciate a lot.
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